2023 Sent Fletcher ‘In Search of The Antidote.’ Here’s What She Found

So it’s a slowing down. It is meditation. It is breathwork. It is eating my food slower, eating more regular meals, drinking more tea and less tequila. It’s journaling. It’s talking to my therapist. It’s laughing. It’s not taking myself so seriously. It’s not criticizing my body. It’s practicing gratitude for it and all the ways that it gets me through life and allows me to get on a stage.

Self-care has been a redefining of my love for myself and my vessel that gets me through life.

I find artists’ relationship with TikTok interesting because obviously, it does help people find lesbian and sapphic artists. But there can also be that pressure to reverse-engineer an artistic persona or art for an algorithm. How do you feel about it as a discovery tool and a way to connect with fans versus an industry pressure?

I think it’s incredible to get to find a new audience and have people discover your music, building a presence there and [being able] to share myself and be more playful and make videos to different sounds. It allows you to be in this space of not taking yourself so seriously while also being an incredible promotional tool.

But I don’t know. For me, it’s always been really hard to look at it through that lens because I’m so sensitive, and all I want to do is connect to people and feel them, and [let] them feel me. It brings up a larger conversation around social media in general, which is that it’s hard to exist in a world where there’s constant pressure to maintain a brand and keep selling yourself. So when you’re on a journey of healing and realizing your own enough-ness, the narrative of social media is quite different when there’s always the next trend to jump on, the next thing to go viral.

For me, it’s just been about navigating that balance, which I’m still learning.

Fletcher Isn’t Afraid to Feel

The singer-songwriter talks with Them about her emotional deluxe album and her forthcoming appearance on The L Word: Generation Q.

It’s a double-edged sword, for real.

Yeah, it really is.

You’ve built your career writing very candid music that isn’t afraid to be passionate and delve into more complicated emotions. It’s refreshing to watch queer women in music move away from this toxic, longstanding expectation that queer artists should water themselves down to seem more palatable or treat being queer like this inherently sad, isolating thing. How do you want to see queer pop music evolve in the future?

I think it’s on a really beautiful trajectory at the moment, [with] people being themselves and being in their truth, and sharing who they are and their joy. Queerness, for me, earlier in my life, was a deeply personal struggle. It was a big part of turning me into the person that I am, and all the things that I had to navigate and go through and process.

But now it’s the gift that keeps on giving because it’s given me this freedom. I think learning that about myself from such a young age and having to do that deep dive and face really complex emotions at the time gave me that tool to be able to [examine] all areas of my life and all relationships. It’s a tool that I take with me wherever I go.

This conversation has been edited and condensed for clarity.

In Search of the Antidote is available now via Capitol Records.

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